So I had a very busy morning today, was rushing to work today with a million things on my mind. Caught up with G while I was having my hands full with other things
G: No Good morning or Hi from you today, only 'Where are you?' up straight ! Are you doing alright?
Me: No that was yesterday's message, you read it today. I dint send any today. Quite busy since morning. How was your dinner? It's still night right?
G: Yes, was good. We had a great time.....(the rest of what he said drowned in my thoughts of what needs to be done)
Me: I am sorry, not able to focus on what you just said, will have to call you from the car. Talk to you soon.
Some mornings are crazy busy, but others just refuse to turn into noon! I like talking on the go, since I get time to collect my thoughts and there are no interruptions.
Me: Hey, sorry to cut you off before. So how was your dinner?
G: No problem! It went great actually, one of my colleague was talking about how she met her husband through bar hopping. It was a good story. She asked how we met and I told her that your sister married my cousin and that how she knows me and got me to meet you.
Me: I am sure they find the concept of arranged marriage a little strange.
G: Well yes, I was explaining them that arranged marriages earlier had begun because there was a system of joint family and marriage was for two families to join together. Now this has changed quite a lot. Also in India children continue to live with their parents, so parents are involved throughout their lives.
Me: I guess that concept is a little alien to them, knowing that they like to live quite independent and even their children move out quite early
G: My other colleague who is an Indian as well, was saying that even if we din't want to be with our parents or take care of them, there is a lot of societal pressure to do it. For which I said yes there is but its a two way process right, the same society also pressurises the parents to look after the children and a lot of people continue to depend upon their parents financially and emotionally almost all their lives. So we went on talking about choices.
Me: Arranged Marriages are different these days though, Its like a combination of a platform of meeting new people through trusted sources. What about choices?
G: I feel and thats completely my opinion that choices are overrated
Me: Overrated? What do you mean by that? Choice is not important?
G: Of course NOT! I feel that freedom to choose is very important. But can we in real terms always choose what to do? And if we did have that freedom to choose things we decide to do, is it always right? I think thinking and analysing are more important than choice in a society.
Me: I din't get you, can you give me some example?
G: Hmm.. See if someone is treating someone badly or there is injustice happening, choice to stop it and do something to correct it is vital. Whereas if I say that its my choice to hurt someone or do as I please in a relationship, its not right. Sometimes we don't have any choice even if we think we do, like we can't say that I want to work in the office at 3-5 am and I won't work the rest of the day. We can't! That's why I say choice is overrated, It is absolutely necessary at times whereas some places dangerous and useless at times.
Me: Thats an interesting take *thinking of Deepika Padukone's video*. Well I have reached my destination so I would have to call up later
G: Okay! take care, talk to you later.
G: No Good morning or Hi from you today, only 'Where are you?' up straight ! Are you doing alright?
Me: No that was yesterday's message, you read it today. I dint send any today. Quite busy since morning. How was your dinner? It's still night right?
G: Yes, was good. We had a great time.....(the rest of what he said drowned in my thoughts of what needs to be done)
Me: I am sorry, not able to focus on what you just said, will have to call you from the car. Talk to you soon.
Some mornings are crazy busy, but others just refuse to turn into noon! I like talking on the go, since I get time to collect my thoughts and there are no interruptions.
Me: Hey, sorry to cut you off before. So how was your dinner?
G: No problem! It went great actually, one of my colleague was talking about how she met her husband through bar hopping. It was a good story. She asked how we met and I told her that your sister married my cousin and that how she knows me and got me to meet you.
Me: I am sure they find the concept of arranged marriage a little strange.
G: Well yes, I was explaining them that arranged marriages earlier had begun because there was a system of joint family and marriage was for two families to join together. Now this has changed quite a lot. Also in India children continue to live with their parents, so parents are involved throughout their lives.
Me: I guess that concept is a little alien to them, knowing that they like to live quite independent and even their children move out quite early
G: My other colleague who is an Indian as well, was saying that even if we din't want to be with our parents or take care of them, there is a lot of societal pressure to do it. For which I said yes there is but its a two way process right, the same society also pressurises the parents to look after the children and a lot of people continue to depend upon their parents financially and emotionally almost all their lives. So we went on talking about choices.
Me: Arranged Marriages are different these days though, Its like a combination of a platform of meeting new people through trusted sources. What about choices?
G: I feel and thats completely my opinion that choices are overrated
Me: Overrated? What do you mean by that? Choice is not important?
G: Of course NOT! I feel that freedom to choose is very important. But can we in real terms always choose what to do? And if we did have that freedom to choose things we decide to do, is it always right? I think thinking and analysing are more important than choice in a society.
Me: I din't get you, can you give me some example?
G: Hmm.. See if someone is treating someone badly or there is injustice happening, choice to stop it and do something to correct it is vital. Whereas if I say that its my choice to hurt someone or do as I please in a relationship, its not right. Sometimes we don't have any choice even if we think we do, like we can't say that I want to work in the office at 3-5 am and I won't work the rest of the day. We can't! That's why I say choice is overrated, It is absolutely necessary at times whereas some places dangerous and useless at times.
Me: Thats an interesting take *thinking of Deepika Padukone's video*. Well I have reached my destination so I would have to call up later
G: Okay! take care, talk to you later.
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